boys will be boys

hey guys.

how are you today?

i hope you are doing good. because you are alive. and not dead. how fortunate are we to be alive?!

wait, i digress...

okay guys here goes my 'shpeel' on boys.

boys suck don't they? 

we pretend like they don't sometimes but it's true, right? 

they are mean. they break your heart. they flirt with a lot of girls. they make you feel insecure. they pay more attention to other girls than they do to you. they forget to call. they don't text you back. they don't put in enough effort. they say rude things. they aren't there for you. they make out with you then stop talking to you.

they talk about big boobs and nice butts and tiny stomachs and pretty smiles and long hair and bright smiles and pretty blue eyes and funny personalities and soft, flawless skin. and the truth is most of us girls don't have all those! we are lucky enough to score one or two of those things. 

why do they do that? why do boys make us feel like we need to be perfect? why do they make us feel like we aren't good enough or hott enough or smart enough or funny enough...

well girls, truth is: they don't make us feel like that. we do that to ourselves....

i mean, c'mon think about it.

yeah sure, guys like it when a girl has a nice body... but we like boys who have nice muscles too... 

we are human beings.

but when we get down to it...

they love us.

girls,..... boys LOVE us.

they are obsessed with us, actually. 

they do a lot of the things they do FOR US FEMALES. consciously and subconsciously.

they want to impress us just as much as we want to impress them.

they think we're cute. they think we do adorable things. 

they love our long soft hair, but if we chopped it all off I promise if he loves you.... it won't matter. in fact, he might like it even more because it wont get in his face while you're cuddling. 

he likes it when you dress modestly, because then on the rare occasions when you show a little skin its like christmas day and it gets him all excited and makes him want you THAT much more.

he likes your brown eyes. because they add a dark feature to your face. he loves staring into them no matter what because its the window to your soul. and he is in love with your soul. boys are not heartless.

he likes your small boobs or your little butt. because guess what boobs are boobs and butts are butts. and boys are gross.

he thinks you're funny. he thinks the way you laugh is funny and it makes him laugh. he likes your smart-alek jokes and your witty comments. 

he doesn't text you back because sometimes... he just isn't interested in you... and thats something you're just going to get over... move on. forget him just like he forgot about you...

or maybe he has other things on his mind? 

boys need to be reminded every once in a while. "hey, it was weird that you didn't call me back all day yesterday, kinda hurt my feelings can you not do that ever again, thanks..." 

if he gets defensive (and he will) just say its okay? its not the end of the world if he doesn't call or text. just let him know it hurt your feelings and move on with your life. how he chooses to reciprocate is up to him. he will either change or not. if he changes, he cares about you, if he doesn't... be patient. just chill out and remind him kindly. remember he is a male...they don't think those things through.

he ditched you for his guy friends? what a jerk.

go out with your girlfriends, tell him you miss him. whatever you do, DO NOT COMPLAIN.

complaining just makes you both miserable.

just make him want to be with you ASAP without pulling the guilt card.

for example a text like this:

"hey i hope you're having fun! i miss you. you're hott and i want to kiss your face." 

it's a little forward but most guys love that crap. i promise that blows over a lot better than:

"i really wish you didn't hang out with the guys tonight..." or "why dont you just want to hang out with me?" or "when are you gunna hang out with me? that was really inconsiderate of you to ditch me." or "it's just football it doesnt matter. " or "you don't pay enough attention to me.."

boys will be boys. 

if they let you go get your nails done every month let them have their "man time".

now here is the real killer. the thing that gives guys the worst rep.

the 'hit it and quit it' move...

they make out with you... maybe they even take you on a few dates before. then...

they stop talking to you.

this is when you are like "WHAT DID I DO?!" and you start to question every move you made while in their presence. 

chill out.

because guess what?

you just weren't the girl for them.

they weren't that into you.

i know you're thinking "well, why did they have to kiss me and make me believe they liked me?!"

well maybe they did like you? or maybe they didn't.

but the cold hard truth is... they probably don't anymore and they just really don't feel like they should waste anymore time with you...

harsh i know but we do the same thing to guys sometimes we just are a little more kind with how we go about it....

but really....you werent that girl for them. you weren't the right girl. most guys that have a rap as a "playa" will either A.) be a player for life and if thats the case you don't want to be involved with them anyway B.) find that girl who will change them and make them settle down and you just weren't the girl for that. doesn't mean you suck as a person? not at all? and if you think that.. you are letting satan into your head. you just were meant for someone better for you. that also means you might be "that girl" for the next "playa" that takes you on a couple dates. you could be the girl for them that makes them want to settle down and just love you forever. and how beautiful is that..... that there is a guy out there who wants to love on you forever and ever. and he IS out there.

the worst thing you can do is assume all guys are the same. some are complete A-holes and some are angels. but you never know unless you give them a chance. there is nothing wrong with giving people the benefit of the doubt(but don't be completely stupid) before you make your own assumption of them based on your own experience with them. don't believe reputations or rumors until they are confirmed first hand. 

that means your heart will broken sometimes. you will feel like crap sometimes, but you know what? that is so okay.

you will be a better person for it. and when the right guy finally comes along, you will appreciate him 100 times more.

so ya. guys can really suck. but so can girls. and thats life and love. get over it and keep searching for your human soulmate.

i promise.... you're good enough. and you will get through whatever it is you're going through right now.

there are billions and billions of living human beings on this earth. i promise that person is out there. go find them. 

and who knows, maybe that person never comes in your life here on earth... but he will be running to kiss you right on the mouth and hold on to you as soon as you both get up to heaven.

i'm sorry if i wasted your time but i'm sure you will get over it.

l8r troops

souls & humans & ya

people are oh-so interesting.

everyone is so different. (cliche alert)

it's amazing really. humans. so strange. so functional. so dysfunctional. so awkward. so graceful. so willing & so lazy. so weird & so normal. i feel like everyone has something unique & beautiful about themselves.

but right now, i just want to talk about a certain kind of human.

the kind of human who is REALLY a human. 

...i mean a real human being. who IS just human. does natural human things....and isnt afraid of human tendencies but embraces them. embraces the world around them.

a human with a lyrical soul.

ANNND what do i mean by a “lyrical soul”? ...

well.

when you meet someone it becomes pretty evident whether they have a lyrical soul or not.

like hmmm. lets see...

it's when you can talk to someone about beauty, opinions & sounds. and have it NOT be a joke and it's not just small talk.

when you can just be silent with someone. 

when they make you feel like you can tell them anything & they will understand it completely. they not only feel for others and feel what they are going through but they can express those emotions in a way that seems like literature. they listen to you when you pour out your heart to them. they give you feedback. not just “oh cool” or “thats funny” or “thats weird” but “oh my gosh you know that reminds me of this..” or “wow... how did that make you feel?” or “what was going through your head? were you sad?” i love that.

i call people that are like that, “lyrical souls"

& i absolutely adore them.

we all know them. those people that don’t just text you every once in a while & thats when & the only time you talk. 

it's those people that call you randomly while your on your way home from work just to tell you a funny story. 

those people that want to help other people. those people that would let you sleep on their couch for a year if you needed it without asking any questions.

those people who aren't afraid to ask you for favors. those people who aren't afraid to ask dumb questions. those people that aren't afraid to like what other people like even if its considered “cliche". these kinds of people don’t strive to be different…..they're OK with already being different.

the people that listen to loud music when they’re excited & music with a lot of bass and meaningless verses when they want to get “pumped” for some event.

they enjoy listening to soft music with their eyes closed & their arms folded across their chest as if the music is already a part of them. and its as if as the music goes on… its like its coming out of their souls.. not out of the speaker. they bask in it.

i love people that appreciate talent. that don’t tear it down. no matter what talent it is. 

they long for the presence of other abstract people but get along with everyone.

they make other people feel like everything is possible… just by smiling at them. or telling them about their dreams & goals. no matter how realistic or unrealistic they may be. 

why is it that when these lyrical souls smile at you its like all your happiest memories flash in your mind & your body feels like it just 'took a deep breath through it’s very veins? why is it that these lyrical souls can act so desperately but it isn’t a plea for attention & it doesn’t turn you off…. its like they are desperate in that they long to satisfy your own plea for attention. it actually turns you on & makes you more interested. 

they make you feel like you are a much better person than themselves. yet in doing that, you feel inferior to them. they are so magical really its uncanny how unreal they seem. 

they make you feel like every human is your best friend... because every human is beautiful & crazy & wonderful in their own way.

maybe thats why when you find someone like this you become so involved. you want to be with them. you want to talk to them. you want their opinion on everything. you want them to be your soulmate.

these are the kind of people it takes time to get over. you know why? because a part of them gets left behind in everyone they meet. & that part of them is called ‘positivity’. its a lasting effect they have on people. 

also because the most “erotic thing is good conversation” & you want to pour out your whole heart & soul to them every chance you get. every time you feel something new or experience something you want them there to talk to about it. 

talking to them, talking about them makes you have this feeling in your stomach. the same feeling you get at the end of a mystery movie when they are about to reveal the whole plot & you’re just so happy, excited & anxious, its that same kind of feeling. makes you happy. they tell you what they feel when they feel it no mater how appropriate the time is.

giving someone something physical of yours….a kiss, a hand hold, your time, your money. you can do those things over & over again & its physically the same pretty much every time. what makes these people different is that when these things happen, its depth. it different. its memorable.its meaningful. its a whole different experience. 

in fact. they make you feel like you don’t need those things to feel good.

they aren't materialistic. but they don’t wear boring clothes. they act like an idiot when you’re alone with them but then they turn into a witty humorist & a class-act when you go out with friends. they’re crazy, yet they’re sensible.

they’re beautiful creatures, really. they’re like magic. & you can’t seem to forget them. ever.

they remind you of all things dreamy. 

they’re intelligent, they’re funny, they just get you.

 they’re lyrical souls. 

& look.... i know the whole time you were reading this, you had one person in mind. go tell them. tell them you love their mind. tell them they have made you feel this way. why not tell them? if they really are a “lyrical soul” they will reciprocate positively. so you really have nothing to lose. they would do the same for you.

if not, go find one. become friends with one. but be careful to date one…. because you won’t get over them easy.

& hey. who knows, maybe you are one.

and how cool would that be?

sorry if i wasted your time but i'm pretty positive you will get over it.

l8r troops